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Before you go, there is one more thing that may help.
The reset teaches you how to stop the spiral.
But once you pause, breathe, and come back to the conversation, the next question is usually:
“What do I actually say now?”
The reset helps you stop the fight from getting worse.
But after the pause, after the breathing, after the heat comes down, most couples hit the next hard part: finding the right words.
Because the wrong sentence can restart the same fight.
“I’m sorry you feel that way.”
“Can we just move on?”
“You always take things the wrong way.”
“I already said sorry.”
“Whatever. Forget it.”
You may not mean to create more distance.
But in a tender moment, certain phrases can land like dismissal, defensiveness, blame, or shutdown.
That’s why I created The Fight Repair Kit.
The Fight Repair Kit
Science-backed scripts and strategies for what to say before, during, and after conflict, so you can minimize hurt and find your way back to each other.
This is a practical field guide for the moments when love is still there, but your words are getting tangled.
It helps you know what to avoid, what to say instead, how to apologize without getting defensive, and how to reconnect after the hard part.
Inside The Fight Repair Kit, you’ll get:
1. TEN PHRASES TO AVOID DURING A FIGHT
Common phrases that accidentally create defensiveness, shutdown, shame, or distance — and why they land harder than you may intend.
2. WHAT TO SAY INSTEAD
Softer, clearer replacement phrases that help lower the emotional temperature instead of raising it.
3. THE AFTERMATH: WHAT TO SAY AFTER A FIGHT
A step-by-step guide for finding your way back to each other once the heat has passed.
4. SORRY, NOT SORRY: HOW TO APOLOGIZE SO IT ACTUALLY LANDS
The apology mistakes that keep conflict alive — and what a genuine repair-based apology needs instead.
5. FIFTEEN REPAIR SCRITS TO USE RIGHT NOW
Simple, emotionally honest scripts for the moments when your own words disappear.
This is for the moments you do not want to keep repeating.
The moment after a fight when the room is quiet, but not repaired.
The moment when you want to apologize, but you are scared it will turn into another argument.
The moment when you know you said the wrong thing, but you do not know how to come back.
The moment when you both care, but the words keep creating more distance.
The Fight Repair Kit gives you language you can borrow until your own words arrive.
Get The Fight Repair Kit for $17
The 10-Minute Fight Reset teaches you how to stop the spiral.
Now get the words for what comes next.
No thanks, I’ll start with the free workbook.